Thankfulness is a learned habit for some, especially those who have previously ruled that their worlds are marked by unfortunate events and happenstances. As we evolve as humans through the stages of perceived victimhood, we come to a wonderful sense of wholeness through the power of being thankful. Thankfulness need not being universally attributed to all aspects of one’s life. It can be used to mentally enforce and encourage good aspects.
I cannot overstate the importance of earnest thankfulness. The emotion behind words is often more important than the words themselves. This is not to mean that one should express extreme emotions in inappropriate situations, but that one should harness and properly expel alongside words his or her thankfulness. The following are things that I do and have done to encourage thankfulness in my life:
- Mend and clean rather than buy. When I can afford it and when it’s practical, I try to mend broken objects and clean dirty objects as opposed to throwing the items away. In this, I express my gratitude at owning the object in the first place. I consciously consider its value to me, enabling me to denote its utility, hence providing it with more meaning than I originally bought it with. This also means I don’t own a lot of material goods, as I prefer practicality and meaning over quality.
- State your gratitude loudly. When I found myself in a thankfulness rut, I saw a lot of negativity. I did not often recognize things to be thankful for. Since shifting my consciousness to a more open thought paradigm, I see better the beauty in people’s actions. I recognize when people go out of their way to do something for me. And I become more vocal about my appreciation, expelling my gratitude towards the do-gooder. This re-enforces the good feeling in both parties.
- Love yourself to show your good intent to the world. It’s easiest to express thankfulness when you are in touch with yourself and when you love yourself. There is tremendous power in being good to yourself, as it makes you much more likely to be good to others. Once you love yourself, you radiate an energy that emits your intentions for doing good towards others, as you do to yourself.
- Recognize authentic good will. Another component of expressing thankfulness is recognizing when an action is done with good intent as opposed to one that is dependent. An action is dependent when the individual who committed the proclaimed good action requires something in return. When you begin to recognize the will behind actions, and not merely speculate it, you begin to see which individuals are going to play potent roles in your life.
- Understand your impact. Understanding my impact was very difficult; when you refuse to understand your impact, you perceive that you are not accountable for all of your actions. When you recognize your impact, you understand that you are accountable for what you do. Then you own up to it and move on. It is freeing to hold yourself accountable and to release it. Then when good things happen, you become all the more aware of it, and you can express earnest, unfiltered gratitude.
Earnest thankfulness can be a learned habit and can come under condition of self-love and of powerful connection to the universe. Once you see the love in yourself and recognize good will in others, you can very honestly give thanks.