We say that a lot of things are difficult. Uncountable hoards of blog posts about writing state in the first paragraph how hard it is. The same goes for getting in shape, getting the career of your dreams, accepting rejection, and so on. This is not reality; this is a perception of reality. In truth, if something seems hard, there are probably some other factors at play that we’re failing to address. If nothing is hard, then why does it feel so hard? I’ve compiled some reasons why situations seem difficult below.
It’s against my sense of ethics.
If you’ve ever been at a job where you were asked to do something you consider unethical, you surely feel your moral compass chime in. The moving pieces of ethically create a situation of difficulty in which you have to take into account your seeming dependence on a job for money, and your deeper, truer self.
I don’t believe in it.
Many times, things only seem hard because we’re participating in things that we don’t believe in. Beyond an ethical sense, we simply aren’t invested in the thing, whether emotionally, monetarily, or otherwise. For something to be easy, no matter how difficult other people say it is, you must believe in it.
I’m subconsciously protecting myself.
There may be times when we can’t pinpoint quite why a situation feels difficult, and in those times, our subconscious may have come into play. Though we may not be aware on a conscious level, our true selves may be peeking in periodically to warn us or remind us to be cautious.
I don’t completely understand the situation.
Much difficulty surrounds simple ignorance. If we do not understand a situation, we may default the experience as “difficult” in our minds. We pre-label experiences before we have challenged our beliefs about a situation.
There are ways to make things easy.
To make situations easy, we must come into them with a clear sense of our moral and ethical boundaries. On top of that, we must have a definitive sense that we may tend for pre-judging situations. We can recognize that the brain labels even before we have the opportunity to become aware that it has done so.
To render something easy, we need to look inward, as well as gather information about the situation itself. Not all things are meant for all people, and difficulty could well be a signifier to the individual that something is off about the situation. Too often, we label things as difficult with the assumption that all things are difficult, and without regarding that there may be another element at play.
If we are in a situation that we hardly have control over, and there is difficulty to it, it may serve us well to continuously remind ourselves how easy it is.
If we believe that something difficult, it will be. Changing our mode of thinking about a situation will elucidate the situation itself and make it easier to manage. Difficulty is a state of mind. In the face of perceived difficulty, we are called on to be more creative, imaginative, and more in tune with ourselves.