Curb Your Incompetence

Judgments of incompetence are a dying remnant of hierarchical interpersonal systems that place weight on manipulation and fostered sub-ordinance. Rather than working harmoniously in a cooperative style, incompetence labels encourage viewing individuals based on assumed capability. These judgments forgo admittance of capability to learn, grow, and work in a work, home, team, or other setting. Many people are capable of placing their opinions on the same track as fact. This burden of misattributed source of information makes for complex convergence of misjudgment and outright mishandling of capabilities attribution. In this, it is best to stray from being accountable to our misjudgments, and fail to relay our opinions about those we perceive as incompetent. There is simply no place in interpersonal dealings for clotting opinion of capabilities, especially when there is a task at hand.

When you are asked to curb your incompetence, in this case in a classroom setting, you start to ask yourself some odd questions. What am I doing to indicate that I am incapable of completing a task? On what basis are my classmates judging my capability to learn this material? Or further, what right do my classmates or even teachers have to tell me that a task is too difficult for me to accomplish? The core of learning is in cooperation and not in judging the capabilitiesof the people around you. It is not in diminishing your fellow learners, classmates, and teachers. It is in fostering their ideas and methods, so as to encourage their growth. We cannot underestimate the impact of individuals who set out to learn a completely new skill. Neither can we sink when we receive continuous negative feedback and pushback from someone who we are meant to work in cooperation with.

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Dictating someone’s level of incompetence is not a weapon that people should use against another. Nobody has all of the information available so as to be able to come to that conclusion, especially in a classroom setting. Trivializing someone’s ability to contribute can only point out the ego of those diminishing it. Individuals should not have to fight to contribute. They should not have to make themselves lesser in order to appease someone who is all too ready to define them. Incompetence is not the incapabilities of a particular person. It’s the surrounding feedback that an individual receives to make themselves believe in their incapabilities. Whether we receive direct feedback claiming our incompetence or we receive no indication that we are working towards our goals, we can feel defeated and hollowed by the process.

On whatever goal we work on, it is not the duty of others to tell us that we are not good enough and that we are not capable of moving forward. We must remember that those who claim our incompetences reveal much more about themselves than they reveal about us. If someone undervalues or diminishes your capabilities, it is not your job to prove them wrong. Nor is it your job to make them proud of you, show them your abilities so as to convince them differently,  or really begin to question your place.