Six Weeks of Morning Pages

For over six weeks now, I have made it a habit of getting up thirty minutes earlier than I normally need to for work. I brew some coffee and hop to my desk to write out three pages. Here’s what I’ve learned thus far:

  1. The Positivity Challenge. It’s much quicker to write about meaningless nuisances than it is to write positively. So I’ve begun challenging myself to write only about good thing. If I get stuck, I write down a quote from a philosopher, credit him or her, and move one.
  2. Settling with Myself. Hand in hand with the challenge, writing in the morning has allowed me to really position myself in preparing for the day. It lets me settle with myself before I have to talk to anybody else. Writing positively sets a mindset for a good day.
  3. Breaking the Routine. Rather than configuring to the normal format of getting up, getting dressed, and getting ready for work, I now have a wonderful thing to get excited about in the morning. It’s a small thing I can do for myself before I put on my customer service hat for the work day.
  4. Getting into Author Mode. When I write in the morning, I find it much easier to come home and start working on my larger writing project after cooking dinner. It’s about embodying that writer lifestyle, and making it a serious time commitment rather than just a hobby.
  5. Resolving Internal Conflicts. I have an overactive mind, I often wake up several times during the night to think. Writing in the morning has very slowly helped to ease that overactivity by allowing me a creative outlet.

Morning Pages is my practice writing time to refocus, recenter, and get in tune with myself before my other responsibilities kick-in. It’s a good way to slowly rewire the brain to think more positively and a creative outlet for the overzealous mind.

Reconnect with Yourself

“We can let the circumstances of our lives harden us so that we become increasingly resentful and afraid, or we can let them soften us, and make us kinder. You always have the choice.” – Dalai Lama

A childhood plagued by reality dysmorphia, a cross-Atlantic move, language and cultural barriers, and toxic relationships do not necessitate an unhappy adulthood. Quite the contrary, learning to reconnect is essential to a whole human experience.

How I reconnect with myself after traumatic spans of time; these are not necessarily in order:

  1. Do what you love again. I love running. I love baking. I love writing. I love reading. These are things I know I love. When I’m not in a healthy situation, I stop doing the things I love, and friends and family notice.
  2. Check in with yourself. Make a list of things that you identify with and that make you smile because they’re uniquely you. I identify as French, literary minded, a writer, and deeply interested in learning. These are things that will impassion your life.
  3. Try something new and you. I’ve fallen off the bandwagon with my writing many times, and even forgotten my adoration and mesmerization of the process. I needed a gentle way back into it, so I started getting up earlier and writing three pages daily.
  4. Forgive yourself. This is hard; sometimes you may blame yourself for things out of your control. Part of reconnecting with yourself is forgiving yourself for not predicting the future of a situation, noticing warning signs soon enough, and taking chances.
  5. Don’t be afraid to be a lone wolf. I’ve personally always felt more comfortable alone, but I know others may not feel the same way. Being alone has many merits: you can reflect on your worth, you can dream about your goals, and you can feel in control.
  6. Read some inspirational quotes. Not all of them are right and some of them are just naive, but reading isolated quotes works as a quick and easy mood lifter. If I get into my own head too much, I’ll hop onto Pinterest and read quotes on positive thinking.

Reconnecting with yourself is incredibly rewarding; it brings you back to your truer self. It involves performing tangible activities that represent you, thinking about who you are, trying something new that’s related what you already love, forgiving yourself, being comfortable with being alone, and reading some wise words.

No matter how far we are taken from ourselves, we can come back and reconnect.